growing up

when my children were still small, how i hope they would quickly grow up...
they can bath themselves; they can feed themselves, they can go to toilet themselves, can do homework themselves.....at the time, a friend said: u still need to have 10 more years before u r free of them. Yes, i waited and waited and waited till the 10 years passed....then they're able to feed ,bathe, got to toilet and did homework themselves...From kindergarten to primary, to secondary, to college and universities... My right hand burden is off, then came the right hand burden: I invested in their education。Ah big girl went to a local college (Southern College) and the younger two went to Taiwan. 中国文化大学 and 环球科技大学。It's a lump sum sending them abroad and hope they will treasure this chance of education. At least I will have no regrets whatsoever regarding their education. I did what i could. The only 内疚 is not having to send ah big girl oversea too. to make up for her , pay for the down payment for her car.
Now , my big girl is working in sg and has just started on her new job this month with a satisfatory salary!
Lolz! All to soon, my babies are all grown ups now.
Little do i realised that when i had wished that the 10 years will passed by quickly, so that they can be dependent on me, I AM GETTING OLD TOO! this reality doesnt dawn on me before, ever....I never knew that when my babies grew up, I grew old too...>

all my life's a circle...

今日閱讀】我們能擁有孩子多少年？
by 閱讀 on Friday, 27 May 2011 at 12:51

3歲，他去上幼兒園了，看著他小小的堅強的背影，心中又喜悅又有點小小的心酸。

離別了一整天，孩子看到你高興得奔跑過來，撲在你的懷裡。



跟你說：媽媽，我想你了。那一刻，抱著孩子就像抱著了整個世界。



6歲，他上小學了，孩子終於走進校門，這是多麼值得紀念的事情，

孩子的人生從此翻開了新的篇章，卻沒想到，這也是孩子離開我們的第一步。

他已經對與你分開一天習以為常了，而且他喜歡每天去學校，這是他更喜歡的生活。

甚至，他有時還會說：媽媽，在家好無聊，沒有小朋友和我玩。







12歲，他上初中了，甚至有的開始上寄宿學校，一個月或者幾個月回一次家，見上一次面。

他們開始不再依賴你，甚至，他們喜歡和你對著看。

你想幫他們做點事情，他們說:媽媽，我自己來吧。突

然覺得這句話讓我們覺得好失落，孩子是不是不再需要我們了？





18歲，他離開你去上大學，一年回來兩次。

回來的好幾天前，家裡的冰箱就裝不下了，為他準備了各種各樣他喜歡吃的東西。

可是一回來打個照面，他就忙著和同學朋友聚會去了。

從此，你最怕聽到的一句話是：媽媽，我不回家吃飯了，你們自己吃吧。





大學畢業後，孩子留在了遠方工作，一年也難的回來一次了。

好不容易回來一趟，幾天就走了。

你最盼望的就是孩子的電話，希望，孩子對你說一聲：媽媽，我很好，你保重身體。這樣就足夠了。





孩子結婚了，回家的時間有一半勻給了你的親家，孩子回來的更少了。

你已經習慣就老兩口在家了，但是，你最希望聽到孩子對你說：媽媽，今年過年我回家過啊！





當孩子又有了他們自己的孩子，你已經不再是他們的家庭成員了，

他們的一家三口（或一家n口）裡，已經不包括你們了。

而我們。 。 也慢慢的習慣了這樣的日子。

只是習慣在閒來無事的時候，經常翻翻相冊，

看看我們自己的一家三口，無論孩子身在何方，

他卻永遠是我們家庭中無可取代的一員。





是啊，其實當孩子在身邊的日子，我們是多麼幸福。

可是有時我們卻還會抱怨。





抱怨為了培養他，花費了太多的精力與金錢...





可是，如果你想想，10多年後，就算你想要，也沒有機會了。

孩子會不停的長大，過了這個時期他就再沒有這個時期的習性。





你是不是常常在他斷奶後懷念餵他吃奶的日子，

可是那時你卻覺得好累好辛苦好厭倦。



是不是常常看他以前吃手的照片覺得好可愛，

可是你曾經卻為要不停的給他洗手而煩惱透了。



是不是在他褪去童聲後，特別想念他曾經奶聲奶氣的聲音，

可是他以前撒嬌的時候你卻很不受用。



是不是當孩子去上學後你特別懷念他黏在你身邊的日子，

可是以前你卻總在想他要什麼時候才能去上學啊。 。 。



時間無法倒流，過去了就只能永遠過去了。孩子能呆在身邊的日子是多麼難得與寶貴。因為這一點，我更加的珍惜與孩子相處的每一刻，也讓我無論遇到什麼，都心存感恩。

謝謝上天給我這麼一個孩子，讓我分享與見證他成長的每一刻。無論帶給我多少困難，煩惱，甚至挫敗，無論讓我失去多少睡眠，時間，金錢，精力，我仍然豁達，因為，這都是上天的恩賜。




當他在身邊的每一天，我都會讓他覺得幸福，也是讓我們都有一個美好的回憶。

我不會給他太多壓力，束縛，更不會給他牽絆，阻擾，但是我會適時管教，

也會做量力而行的投資，因為我有責任與義務教會他生活的本領，

好讓他來日自由快樂的飛翔。同時，我也會告訴他，就算所有的路都行不通時，

還有一條路你可以暢行，那就是回家的路。 。 。 。 。 。





好好珍惜身邊的每一個人






原文作者：不明



【版主曰】

珍惜現在→因上一秒已不在

珍惜苦難→只有痛才會在記憶裡留存

珍惜歡笑→只有笑才能忘卻生命的痛

珍惜身邊人→因下一秒不一定在



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